EXPLAINING WHAT DRIVING IS LIKE IN INDONESIA

OK, so after my blog about our accident I realized I hadn't had a blab about What the driving is like here!!!! Then I got to thinking WELL how do I explain it, words can’t really explain it but I will try.

So when we came to Indonesia we had to share a driver while we waited for hours, A lot of the time people say "its better if you just don't look" these drivers are trained and have been living here their whole lives so they know what they are doing.

So we get our new car and our own driver so I had no need to drive, Zed had driven a few times on Sundays and such, with me in the passenger’s seat saying "oh watch that scooter, ahh babe, oh , ahhh, oh watch that" which no doubt pissed him off!!!!!!

When we moved into our house our driver was sick so I had to drive Zed to work and take the car WOW I was nervous to say the least, you have to dodge scooters on each side in front and watch them at the back. Beeps here there and everywhere telling you "hey I'm here watch out" I could seriously be rally driver when we come home and dodge trees instead of scooters (and that no exaggeration ).

You have whole families on one scooter and children don't wear helmets!!!!!! 

White lines on the road mean absolutely nothing, traffic lights sometimes do and sometimes don't, roundabouts work totally different, and zebra crossings mean "Go when you can without being run over because no one will stop" , people just swerve from this lane to that, no blinkers ahhhh its so crazy to drive here the first few times!

And then there are these little guys who are everywhere they sell toys, balloons, candy and such. So I hope that this has showed you what it is like to drive over here and possibly why a scooter ran into the back of us ( cause some of them are crazy riders) Oh and FYI if there is an accident between a car and scooter the car is always at fault no matter the situation!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :O

How bad is that!!!!

POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS FOR KIDS :)

Positive Affirmations for Kids:

I feel joy in every corner of my body.


I am happy.



I am healthy.




I am good at _____.



I choose to improve at _____. (This is as ‘change’ oriented as I would go with a child.)

I am grateful for my _____. (parents, pets, siblings, bike, school, etc… Commit to making a list of 5 each evening with your child.)

Life is fun.

I talk out my feelings peacefully.

Life makes me laugh.

_____ make me smile. (puppies, holidays, playing sports, etc…)

I am thankful for you. (Start saying this to all of the members in your family. It is a wonderful way to shift negative dynamics.)

I appreciate you. (Again make this a common family phrase.)

 

I love to give love, receive love and live love.

About Affirmations:

 

The key when saying, and/or reading, affirmations is to feel the feelings they portray. It can help to fully relax and know that at the core of your being, these statements are true. If they feel out of reach or you are having a hard time convincing yourself of their truth, adjust the affirmation to include the words choose, potential, or willing to make them true for you at this moment.

Also, affirmations gain their power from repetition. The more often you say them, the more they will impact your reality. Affirmations are not a one-time-event…say them once and life is perfect. Affirmations are an everyday choice, a choice we make with our thoughts and feelings. The more often you use them, the quicker you will begin to see new opportunities, engage in new healthy behaviors, and feel energized by the direction your life will be taking.

To learn more about making affirmations part of your daily routine, visit All About Affirmations. To start writing your own powerful, effective affirmations, visit Writing Affirmations.

AFFIRMATIONS- POSITIVE THINKING

Hello everyone, I'm going to share a post from a friend of mines blog that i absolutely LOVE i think it would be a great one for all the mums to read and implement in their house hold. i am in the middle of getting ours together so we can say them every morning together and every night together kids included!!!

So my friend Possum's blog as follows if you wanna check out any of her other awesome post's you can find her @ http://purelypossum.posterous.com/

“An affirmation opens the door. It’s a beginning point on the path to change.”

– Louise Hay

 

I talk to myself a lot. Most of the time I do it in my head, but some times I will do it out loud. The latter is usually only in the company of my dog. I’m not crazy. Not by clinical standards, anyway. I simply understand the power my words and thoughts have over my life. Constantly repeating positive affirmations has had a major effect on my life.

According to Dr Bruce Lipton, most of our beliefs are formed when we are children. Perhaps it was said that you are stupid, lazy, selfish, or shy. This affirmation would have left an imprint in your mind, during the years that are most formative. And then these unwholesome statements can stay with you in the conscious or unconscious mind, only to be reinforced throughout the rest of your life. Unless you do something about it. The core beliefs that we have in this moment are the results of our past experiences – things we heard, things we’ve seen, and things we were told. This doesn’t make them real though.

The unconscious mind cannot tell the difference between a real or imagined idea, so it responds to whatever suggestions you give it. So, if you’re constantly telling yourself that you are stupid, fat, lazy, or shy – that is the reality you are going to create for yourself.

The awesome and empowering part of this is that we can turn it all around. When we are aware of the mind’s powerful ability to create whatever it is we tell it to, we can go ahead and do just that.

By repeating positive affirmations you can actually retrain your mind to create a reality that matches your goals.

By changing your perception, you change your reality. It all starts with the thoughts you think. These thoughts become your feelings, these feelings become your vibration and your vibration ultimately becomes your life. It is your vibration that determines whether you are attracting what you want into your life or not. So, as simple as they are, affirmations can transform every aspect of our lives including our health, relationships and success.

How to make affirmations work

For affirmations to be effective they must be written in the first person, be in the present tense, be goal orientated and be written as though they have already been achieved. So don’t go around saying things like “I wish” or “I will” or “I want”. You need to act as if.

You affirmations must be followed through with some kind of supporting action. You need to walk your talk. There’s no point in affirming that you’re a Power Ranger if you’re not prepared to go out and hire a coloured suit and helmet.

Here are some of the affirmations I repeat every day:

• I have a perfectly healthy body and mind
• I am healing now
• I love and approve of myself
• Abundance flows into my life in surprising ways every day
• Life flows effortlessly
• All my relationships are harmonious

How have affirmations helped me?

My best friend was into affirmations well before I was, so when I first was diagnosed with cancer, she told me to start repeating them. And so I did. Ever since that eventful day back in April 2008, I have been telling myself, “I have a perfectly healthy body and mind”. At first it was hard to believe, what with all the doctors telling me that I was going to be an amputee and most probably die before I saw my mid twenties. But I stuck with it. Whenever I was in a machine having a scan, or waiting to see the doctor, or hooked up to a vitamin C infusion drip; I would repeat this affirmation over and over and over again. The affirmation was my anchor among the craziness of that time, and to this day I have that same statement on mental repeat.

On a less serious note, affirmations have also allowed me to see that I am not actually a shy person. I am an introvert, sure. But I’m not as shy as I have always thought I am. Simply by repeating, “I love and approve of myself” I seem to have given myself permission to come out of my shell. I am proud of my personality, I am no longer intimidated by situations where I’m out of my comfort zone, and I no longer want to throw up at the thought of speaking in public.

Add power to your positivity

Repeat your affirmations as often as possible. The more you repeat them, the deeper they will be ingrained into your mind, and the faster they will be implemented in your subconscious.

You can speak them out loud, repeat them to yourself, write them down over and over again in a journal and write them on post it notes and stick them all over your house. I have mine written on the mirror in my bathroom, inside my diary, on my computer screen saver, on my vision board, and I even set reminders on my phone throughout the day so I am randomly greeted with something telling me “You look beautiful today, Jessica!”

 

Today's post is by Jess Ainscough. Jess is an Australian writer, blogger and certified holistic health coach. Via my e-books, daily blog posts, and videos, her goal is to empower people to take control of their health and show that the quality of their lives is directly linked to how people treat their body and mind. Each day she uses this online soapbox to preach all about natural health and healing, organic beauty, meditation, inspirational bits and pieces and delicious, healthy organic plant-based wholefoods. Check her out at www.thewellnesswarrior.com.au

So i hope you have enjoyed this as much as i did, i think it cant be great for kids to start something like this now! i will keep you up to date with how we are going when we start tomorrow.

MUMMA T XXX

THE THINGS KIDS KNOW THAT WE DONT.

A few nights ago the twins were getting ready for bed in their room after a shower, and daddy went and stood out side their door and was listening to their conversation, Boof was telling master T, "don't you know what a download is"? and Master T replied "No, how do you know what it is", "oh i saw it at Miss L's house" replies Boof, Master T replies "oh i didn't see it" Boof says "oh you want me to take a photo of it so you know what it is next time we are at Miss L's?"  Master T "oh yes please"

HAHAHAHA

I was at miss L"s place the other day and there was a little boy (lets call him m7)over from across the street and a few other kids, and one of the little boys were wearing a girls shirt and m7 says oh he looks like a gay.
Miss L says (playing dumb) "oh m7 whats a gay"? m7 replies "oh i cant talk about it, it gross" miss L says "oh OK i don't know what a gay is" to which m7 replies " its where a man and a man do the S word" miss L replies "oh is it?" m7 says "yeah i told you it was gross"

HAHAHAHA 

Our friend have recently taken their little sister into their care here (lets call her Miss A), she is from Laos and we were in the car with her and she and another 8 yr old little girl (Miss T)we ad with us were talking about what they were going to be when they grew up. Miss T said "my brother is going to be a pilot" Miss A replies "I'm going to get married and stay at home while my husband works, and then we will have children and ill look after them at home." I say "what if you don't find a husband?" to which Miss A says "i will".
I then say "don't you want to work"? That's not what woman do " she says

HAHAHA
You cant blame Miss A cause that is what she See's all us expat wives that stay at home and look after the children, and the men go off to work..... :)

And JUST this morning, the boys were asked to go fishing, its a miserable day raining and dark, so i say "i don't think its a good idea for the twins to go, they will end up with a cold" Master T replies "mum we can take a towel, hey daddy" "and wear long sleeve rashey's" adds Boof.

If you have a funny story that a child has said please comment below id love to hear about it!

CRAPPY WEEK EXPAT STYLE PART 2

Continued:

So my driver pulls over and jumps out of the car, leaving me (cripple), master T, boof and Buddha in the car in the middle of a driveway sideways running, and i look behind us and a scooter had ran into the back of our car and the rider was unconscious in the middle of the road, GREAT!!!!

So i call Zed, like 19 times, (i later found out that he was in a meeting) i had no number for office which was only 500 meters up the road but in the state i was in and 3 kids and trying to cross the road and walk was not going to happen.

So this big Indonesian guard for the company that we were parked in the driveway of comes and opens my door talking Indonesian to me, then gesture's for the kids to get out of the car, one of which had no shoes, the car was full of the kids bikes, and bags from staying at a friends house! so I'm attempting to get out of the car with my knee, the guard is getting the kids out then all these guys caring the unconscious rider brings him to my car, loads him in and off go's my car and driver...... :O

So i ring my friend to come and get us, and she came straight away! i have some fantastic friend here in Borneo, these woman have been amazing and so helpful with everything! I'm so lucky!

So then Tuesday, most of Wednesday we have no car, no driver, so i missed the delivery of fresh milk, then on and off all week with no car, or driver its hard enough to get stuff done in this place when you have a driver everyday let alone try and fit it in when you have them maybe 1 day for a week.

But all good should be settling down now and then we go on holidays in 2 weeks !!!!!

A CRAPPY WEEK EX PAT STYLE

OK so last week i was advised by a doctor that i should have surgery on my knee ASAP, i had a fall just after Xmas and it aggravated a old injury and all the stairs in this house wasn't helping.
So it became so sore that i couldn't use it to walk up stairs i was favouring my left leg. couldn't get up from the ground without it hurting, and don't even think about doing a squat (which sometime is difficult to advoid being in this country if you get what i mean) or lunges....OUCH!!!!!!

So i had to have this arthroscope surgery to perform a lateral release. so my knee cap could then get back on track.

So i contacted SOS, and they said "oh we will arrange everything" BAHAHAHA they rang me about everything oh this isn't happening etc etc we cant do this so i ended up ring the insurance and sorting that over a few frustrating days, i had to contact the surgeon, and the hospital. i also had to arrange flights and accommodation.

So after spending nearly 1 whole week organising what i thought would be organised for me and fighting with insurance and whom ever else, i get the go ahead.....only one problem shit the kids.... OK well the twins were fine they wanted to stay at 2 friends house and we know them really well so they were done. BUT Buddha well he too little to stay away from mummy and who with.... so daddy will have to come.... hmmm

So after a discussion well yeah discussion with my lovely husband we decided he had no choice but to come with me and bring Buddha. (he rally wasn't happy )

So we fly to Singapore see the surgeon who tells me "wow you are really lucky you are having this done now as you have lost so much muscle in this leg already from favoring the other one... "

So surgery time comes I'm crapping myself ,when you have 3 children and a hubby that is your life things like this are hard to do, what if you don't wake up?

anyway, asleep, wake up wow its painful, physio comes in like 2 hours after surgery to do some physio already..... so first few hours it hurt but after that it was great, was walking with NO crutches one day later, no drugs/pain killers at all! and now on Tuesday operation being on Friday I'm walking nearly normal, it hurts less to walk up stairs than it did before i had operation yay!!!!

So we fly home Monday morning, i was so excited to see boof and master T, 4 days is a long time... so i pick them up from school (with the driver) and we are coming home and i hear this big bang noise on the back of the car.... "what was that i say to our driver", he looks in his side mirror and starts rambling in Indonesian....pulls over straight away. to be continued...

TOO BUSY!!!! kids spell LOVE , TIME

I think we have all done it as people, "Just wait a minute I'm just doing....."  "no i cant come to lunch because I'm cleaning the house" and i think as parents we say it way too often.

Iv been thinking lately, and what i have come up with is really upsetting to me. It seems that we as parents are all TOO BUSY to do things with our children, we put them in front of video games to keep them quiet, and tell them in a minute heaps. But does that minute ever come up? and are we happy when and if it does?

We need to spend quality time with our children because they aren't going to want t play or spend time with us forever.

i once found this poem which i tried to live by when i had the twins, i thought it was a great excuse as to why my house was always messy and nothing done, BUT the truth is i just rather play with my boys.

A recipe for all mothers. xxx
Today i left some dishes dirty, the bed i made at 3.30 
The nappies soaked a little longer, the odour grew stronger.
The crumbs i spilt the day before are staring at me from the floor.
The fingerprints, there on the wall, will still be there next fall.
The dirty streaks in the window panes, will still be there next time it rains.
"shame on you old lazy-bones" i say
"and just what have you done, today?"

I nursed a baby till he slept, i held a toddler while he wept.
I played a game of hide and seek, i squeezed a toy, so it would squeak.
I pulled a wagon, sang a song, Taught a child right from wrong.
What did i do this whole day through?
Not much that shows, i guess its true...
Unless you think that what I've done might be inportant to someone
with bright blue eyes and soft blonde hair
if that is true, I've done my share!!!

Joanna Green ...



when i was pregnant everyone would tell me, Leave the mess it will still be there tomorrow, so i did. BUT what i found out was that meanwhile everyone telling me that they were at home madly cleaning to have their house spotless..... it was so easy for me to leave the mess because i had these beautiful children that wanted to play with me.

But now that we have so much organising and crap going on (and blogs to write) lol i find my self saying in a minute - ALOT.

So I'm going to try something new in my house..... I'M BANNING "IN A MINUTE" or "later" or "I'm busy" and I'm going to drop everything at that minute and do what my kids ask of me!!!!!!
Don't get me wrong we do alot of thing together, games, reading, swimming, karate, colouring in, but not everyday, i want to be involved in their lives in a happy positive way EVERY MINUTE i can!

I think I'm finding it even harder that they are at school everyday now, i know that's what is meant to happen, but i don't like it ha ha ha ha , i want them home with me maybe I'm selfish. but at the end of the day there is not much time after school, sport, dinner, home work, bath........ time for bed.

So from now on daddy and i are going to stop what we are doing and play with the kids no matter what!!!! :)

So i want you to listen to yorself next time your child ask's you to do something with them...

AND SAY YES!!!! :) happy playing