Children and Accidents

So our boys are very much boys, they ride motorbike, the run a hundred mile an hour, they play lots of sport, and never slow down.

So like any normal full on child they always have bruised chins stubbed toes, scrapped knees and elbows.

So Buddha following the tradition of his big brothers RUNS everywhere, never walks, the other night I said to Zed, will you be right playing with Buddha for a hour while me and the big boys go to the gym (in our complex)? He said yeah we will be fine. So the big boys and I jogged up to the gym, I had done one exercise and there is a knock at the door.

Opened it up and here is Zed and Buddha standing there, covered in blood. Oh my god, what happened? Zed nearly in tears tells me "Buddha and me where playing chase around the lounge room" (a daily activity in our house) "and he tripped on the doona behind the lounge and head butted the coffee table".

The doonas we have behind the lounge because it’s freezing in our house we have aircon 24/7 and the stupid little coffee table I only moved there the other day. :(

So we all had blood everywhere by the time we got home, he probably could have done with a few stitches but Zed and I made up some homemade butterflies stitches and pulled it together and it came together pretty well.

Master T did the same thing when he was a little older, head butted Grandmas window sill had to have a few stitches in the exact same place, so they will have the same scar same size and shape.

TASH xx

GETTING BACK INTO IT!

So it’s been awhile- SORRY! We are all great!!! It’s been raining lots here in Borneo.

My husband is back from nearly a month in Germany whilst I stayed in Borneo and kept the house running.
Not only were we all missing him like crazy, Buddha was teething he broke 2 teeth while Zed was away... horrendous nappy rash, fevers, crying and no sleeping.
Boof was sick for a week as well, doctors, school pickups during the middle of the days and I didn’t have anyone to come home and "winge" too. :(

All I can say is thank God I have some great friends here in Borneo or I would have been a basket case!

But on the upside MILK has been readily available - as you know that would make my life so much better :)

I have really missed my dog- my friends and family this past month have been home sick.

Zed loves his job and there are great new big things coming his way so he is so excited!
Some days I just feel like I’m just existing, not living. I’m sure we all have these days!


I thought maybe if I study something I might feel like I’m accomplishing something? There is no stimulation when you are an ex pat wife, like (work/learning/business) stimulation, so it gets a bit boring, there is heaps to do, coffee mornings, parties, dinner etc but Boring on the brain side of things.

But i'm trying to focus on my family and having quality time together.

xxx

BEING A WOMAN - SUCKS SOMETIMES-caution may offend some readers

Ok so being a woman has its perks, we get to experience a baby growing in our bellies (mean while loosing our bodies), and we have a bond with our child that can never be matched by anything.... BUT sometimes the bad things seriously out way the good.

I had to go to the doctor the other day to get a depo shot in my butt (contraception) and had been being pestered by y mum to have a pap smear as I haven’t had one since the twins were born and as you know they are nearly 6 whoops!

So the doctors had this special "think pink" 850,000 RP you got a pap smear, a mammogram, an internal examination. So I had a talk to the doctor as I had some irregularities in my cycle and she suggested having the "THINK PINK". So I had to come back at 3pm for an ultra sound (breast implants cannot go in the mammogram press) then had a pap smear. So after the very uncomfortable procedures I’m done. The doctor says because of my family history I should have Pap smear every year.... WHAT???

OK OK yes iv had children naturally, and I had like 10 people looking at me while having the twins you think I’d be over being embarrassed about someone looking at my cervix but NO it never gets any more comfortable. I must say but the blood test I had I hardly felt the Indonesians are so gentle, the ultrasound lady all I could think was "is she just making conversation with me cause she is uncomfortable" lol and the doctor that did the pap smear was gentle as well BUT it doesn’t make me feel better.

I don’t see everyone telling any men that I know that they have to go get their testicles checked every year, and even if they did that is nowhere near as intrusive as what we have to deal with.

So tell me who should get "fixed" man or woman?

Now I’ve looked at this in a very unbiased manor and I believe us woman have put up with enough embarrassing moments and been violated enough and it is very safe for men to get "the snip" these days just a lunch time procedure. ;)

Well thats my little vent about that hahaha.
Tash x

TOO BUSY!!!! kids spell LOVE , TIME

I think we have all done it as people, "Just wait a minute I'm just doing....."  "no i cant come to lunch because I'm cleaning the house" and i think as parents we say it way too often.

Iv been thinking lately, and what i have come up with is really upsetting to me. It seems that we as parents are all TOO BUSY to do things with our children, we put them in front of video games to keep them quiet, and tell them in a minute heaps. But does that minute ever come up? and are we happy when and if it does?

We need to spend quality time with our children because they aren't going to want t play or spend time with us forever.

i once found this poem which i tried to live by when i had the twins, i thought it was a great excuse as to why my house was always messy and nothing done, BUT the truth is i just rather play with my boys.

A recipe for all mothers. xxx
Today i left some dishes dirty, the bed i made at 3.30 
The nappies soaked a little longer, the odour grew stronger.
The crumbs i spilt the day before are staring at me from the floor.
The fingerprints, there on the wall, will still be there next fall.
The dirty streaks in the window panes, will still be there next time it rains.
"shame on you old lazy-bones" i say
"and just what have you done, today?"

I nursed a baby till he slept, i held a toddler while he wept.
I played a game of hide and seek, i squeezed a toy, so it would squeak.
I pulled a wagon, sang a song, Taught a child right from wrong.
What did i do this whole day through?
Not much that shows, i guess its true...
Unless you think that what I've done might be inportant to someone
with bright blue eyes and soft blonde hair
if that is true, I've done my share!!!

Joanna Green ...



when i was pregnant everyone would tell me, Leave the mess it will still be there tomorrow, so i did. BUT what i found out was that meanwhile everyone telling me that they were at home madly cleaning to have their house spotless..... it was so easy for me to leave the mess because i had these beautiful children that wanted to play with me.

But now that we have so much organising and crap going on (and blogs to write) lol i find my self saying in a minute - ALOT.

So I'm going to try something new in my house..... I'M BANNING "IN A MINUTE" or "later" or "I'm busy" and I'm going to drop everything at that minute and do what my kids ask of me!!!!!!
Don't get me wrong we do alot of thing together, games, reading, swimming, karate, colouring in, but not everyday, i want to be involved in their lives in a happy positive way EVERY MINUTE i can!

I think I'm finding it even harder that they are at school everyday now, i know that's what is meant to happen, but i don't like it ha ha ha ha , i want them home with me maybe I'm selfish. but at the end of the day there is not much time after school, sport, dinner, home work, bath........ time for bed.

So from now on daddy and i are going to stop what we are doing and play with the kids no matter what!!!! :)

So i want you to listen to yorself next time your child ask's you to do something with them...

AND SAY YES!!!! :) happy playing

TANTRUMS!!!!!

Supermarkets, shopping centres, pool, school, getting in or out of the car, at home THEY happen everywhere.....TANTRUMS!!!!!!!

We all know every kids throws tantrums, any mother that tells you their child has never is a LIAR!!!
 it is just the scale of the tantrum that is different.

A friend of mine once told me a story, she was in this very busy shopping mall i think just before xmas, her husband worked away and she had no family where they lived. So she was in this shopping centre with her twins who were close to 1, and her eldest who was maybe 3, and he didn't want to put shoe's on and chucked what sounded like the biggest tantrum ever in the middle of this shopping centre, so here she was with a pram with twins in it a child laying on the floor kicking legs screaming and crying .... WHAT TO DO?

She just tried talking to him but Sometimes you just cant compromise with a 3 year old. so she did what any good mother would do and said I'm going bye.... and started to walk off knowing very well he would follow when he knew she was actually leaving and she said the looks of disgrace she got from other mothers was phenomenal she said so many were looking at her and him shaking their heads, and giving her foul looks.

Obviously their children are perfect and have never thrown a tanty... pfft what ever!
I remember thinking how rude, if it were me id have looked at that mum and smiled and said something like, it happens to all of us and they do eventually grow out of it I'm told " and made that mum feel a little less embarrassed!

So i was riding with my boys the other day and there was this little boy who looked maybe 3-4 screaming and crying in the middle of the road, not far away was his maid following him telling him to come back inside, his response was NO!!!! and STOP FOLLOWING ME!!!!! bahahaha this went on for a good 15 Minutes, sorry but it was a laughing matter!!!

Then at the pool the other day this little girl was told time to go, well she didn't want to and made it clear to maybe the whole of balikpapan it went on for a good 15-20 min as well! I don't have to tell you if that was my kid she would be banned from the pool for a frigging week !!!

I have a great friend who when her little boy was 3 or 4 would get so hysterical when throwing tantrums they would have to put him in a cold shower to calm him down! nothing else worked for him time outs, taking toys, talking to him, nothing so try different things kids aren't all the same!

i think I'm quiet lucky, don't get me wrong iv had my fair share of tanty and still do, usually that boof got something that master t didn't, or master T got to watch more telly or they not sharing ahhhhhh BUT my littlest one throws the best by far!!! Buddha will make it very clear when he wants or doesn't want something, yesterday i was sitting on the lounge room floor trying to write an email WELL he wanted to hit the computer after saying very sternly NO a few hundred time's i moved him onto the step away from me, well the tears rolled, and then he stopped and came over to me and hit me, well i moved him away again and said NO! so he drops to the floor kicking his legs around, flinging his body everywhere for about 5 minutes.

Finally he stops and gets up and decides he gong down stairs to play still crying a little he walks to the top of the stairs and starts again hitting the wall well slipped and tumbled down about 6 steps, well didn't i feel like the worst mother in the world, so up jumps boof, then me, then master T all to check on Buddha, and he was screaming, the fall scared him more than being hurt but still anytime your child cries it tears your heart apart. S we are sitting at the dinner table last night and i tell Zed, chaise tumbled down nearly all of the stairs today all because he was chucking a tanty, and chaise looks up from his high chair with corn everywhere and giggle with this cheeky smile on his face ! he knew exactly what we were talking about! ha ha

A supermum i know recently had as her status on facebook "i now understand why some animals eat their young" hahahaha loved it

So moral of this blog lol is don't worry if you have a tanty throwing child in a shop- look around there is probably 5 mothers there that have had it before ! :) so keep smiling and just walk away! hahahahaha

Poor little man

Do you have a child that just gets all the bad luck? I do, master T, poor little man always is the one that gets hurt!

when he was 2 he was playing at grandma and Nana's and they have bessa block walls and the window sill in the lounge is really low and has a ledge on it on the inside they have long curtains that were closed at the time and they sat a bean bag in front of the window.

Master T was running and jumped on the bean bag on his tummy and whacked the window ledge with his forehead- 2 glues, and 5 stitches later and he has a scar on his forehead (this is how most people tell him apart from boof head.

We live on an acre back in Australia, so we have a little fire pit up the back (which the boys know not to go near) but this one day master T must have had a brain fart or something and decided to step in the hot coals he was 3 at this stage, so a trip to emergency and bandaging with cream for days and he recovered well, thanks to daddy's quick thinking, he picked him straight up and put his feet in the pool!!! :)

The boys are amazing on their quad's, little 4 wheeler motorbikes, they are such good riders except for this one day Tyler decided it might be a good idea to go up the hill on the side :( so the bike tipped and fell on top of him!!!! no damage done at all not even a scratch but he was a bit scared after that!

Last Night, day before the first day of school and the boys were riding back from the pool on their push bikes and master T decided to go over the speed bump 100 mile an hour and as i was driving behind i comeover the hill and here he is bike in the middle of the road and he up on the grass screaming mummy mummy. so put him and the bike in the car and drove home, A MESS he was. Taken massive chunks out of his knee, grazed his other on and grazed all up his tummy :( lucky he was wearing a helmet!!!!!!!!
So nearly a trip to hospital for a scrub and maybe stitches but mummy and daddy cleaned it up good!

So is there a pattern UMMM WELL YES I'M A BAD MOTHER!!!! pfft... NOT
I don't wrap my kids up in cotton wool, i let them actually get out and do stuff!!!! we teach our kids the best we can but only they can do it once they know how, we have to let go of the bike at some point :)

Thanks for reading
Tash x

Over protective or just Smart?

OK so ALOT of people tell me I'm an over protective parent ... are they right or am i just being a mum?

So lets look at some statistics : 2008 - 2009 there were 350,000 cases of child abuse and neglect in Australia, now that was just reported cases and as it is well known MOST child abuse cases are not reported.
When we talk about sexual child abuse it is sad to say that most perpetrators are known and trusted by the child and parents, may even be in a position of power or authority, have easy access to children, and often have the trust of a child. They can be parents, grandparents, defacto or step-partners, older brothers and sisters, uncles, aunts, neighbours, teachers, childcare workers, babysitters or leaders in organizations such as sporting clubs and churches.\
We hear all too often about people in positions like mentioned above hurting our children.

OK then we talk about neglect, or physical or emotional abuse of a child, so the main perpetrators in this case is parents and then grand parents. WOW i was blown away with this,  but ill get to my emotional ramble further on.
only this week did we hear about a British mother left her 6 year old home alone for 5 day to fend for her self.
In Australia a mother agreed to starving her 5 children when they moved in with family, they were so starved that one of her little boys aged 5 passed out and was found to have a serious head injury later in hospital. How you ask can a MOTHER stand by and watch this happen to her children, little human beings that she carried and gave birth too? But we hear it all too often!

In bunderberg in 2010 a 8 year old girl was found in a drain, dead. A 19 year old friend of the parents was found to have broken into their home over night and taken the little girl and killed her.

We have numerous stories of teens killing other teens just to see what it feels like.

NOW THE RANTING BEGINS: OK seriously what the HELL are we doing to our children? is it bad parents having kids? is it video games that makes it OK to kill, bash and steal? Is it The movies that we allow our children to watch that desensitizes them or should they just know the difference and that that is bad behaviour and the wrong thing to do? We call them baddies but to kids they are glorified, in the world at the moment people are praised and rewarded for doing the wrong thing. hmm lets look at this for a minute:

A 14 year old Australian boy go's to Bali, he apparently has a known marijuana problem and gets caught buying pot! WOW OK so this is after the Bali 9, and when you get into Bali there are signs EVERYWHERE about drugs, shapell corby, hmmm Has this kids and his parents been under a rock for umm 10 years? i think not. So this 14 year old is now getting paid for his and parents story about his ordeal.... fair? i think NOT!

Boat people, don't fill in paper work and don't line up and proceed through the correct channels but when they arrive in Australia are moved to the front of the line, given health care, accommodation, a phone card, tv, computers, games and food. hmmm a pattern?

Right so now how do we teach our children that bad people that break the law and hurt people are punished? our Justis systems don't show that at all most offenders get slaps on the wrist's.

We have all these people that really want children that would give anything to have healthy children to love and treat right, when other people can have children abuse them and keep having them. they make it so hard and costly to adopt children that not many people can do it. We have all these great abused children sitting in "the system" waiting for a GOOD life and the authorities make it just TOO hard for that to happen.

So i freak out if i cant see my kids at a play ground, water park, riding around, shopping centers, the pub, i don't like them staying at peoples house's, doesn't matter who it is (except grandparents) i hate it when daddy takes them fishing on the reef (not that he doesn't look after them just cause I'm not there IF something happened) YES I'm over protective but seriously can you blame me?

It takes one bad decision, one second and they could be gone forever.
BUT they are by no means cotton wool babies, i let them do the roughest things kids do i just like to be there watching !

OK so in the past week or so i have heard some really sad stories about families loosing young children!
So Kim received a phone call from her sister in law that said I'm taking my kids camping for the weekend do you want me to take your girls? Kim rang her husband and he said yeah they should have a great time.
so she kept in contact with them all weekend and they were having a great time with their aunt and cousins.
On Sunday she got a phone call from her eldest daughter saying auntie is not driving right she is all over the road, she cant talk and is shaking, Kim asked her daughter to explain where they were the husband set of to where they were while Kim rang 911, but they were both too late the aunt had driven up a off ramp and ran head on into a 4x4 killing everyone in the car bar her son! later it was released that her blood alcohol limit was 4x the limit and she was off her face on pot!
So i ask you who do we trust with our children?
Part 2 to come (after iv calmed down a bit) :)