I think we have all done it as people, "Just wait a minute I'm just doing....." "no i cant come to lunch because I'm cleaning the house" and i think as parents we say it way too often.
Iv been thinking lately, and what i have come up with is really upsetting to me. It seems that we as parents are all TOO BUSY to do things with our children, we put them in front of video games to keep them quiet, and tell them in a minute heaps. But does that minute ever come up? and are we happy when and if it does?
We need to spend quality time with our children because they aren't going to want t play or spend time with us forever.
i once found this poem which i tried to live by when i had the twins, i thought it was a great excuse as to why my house was always messy and nothing done, BUT the truth is i just rather play with my boys.
A recipe for all mothers. xxx
Today i left some dishes dirty, the bed i made at 3.30
The nappies soaked a little longer, the odour grew stronger.
The crumbs i spilt the day before are staring at me from the floor.
The fingerprints, there on the wall, will still be there next fall.
The dirty streaks in the window panes, will still be there next time it rains.
"shame on you old lazy-bones" i say
"and just what have you done, today?"
I nursed a baby till he slept, i held a toddler while he wept.
I played a game of hide and seek, i squeezed a toy, so it would squeak.
I pulled a wagon, sang a song, Taught a child right from wrong.
What did i do this whole day through?
Not much that shows, i guess its true...
Unless you think that what I've done might be inportant to someone
with bright blue eyes and soft blonde hair
if that is true, I've done my share!!!
Joanna Green ...
when i was pregnant everyone would tell me, Leave the mess it will still be there tomorrow, so i did. BUT what i found out was that meanwhile everyone telling me that they were at home madly cleaning to have their house spotless..... it was so easy for me to leave the mess because i had these beautiful children that wanted to play with me.
But now that we have so much organising and crap going on (and blogs to write) lol i find my self saying in a minute - ALOT.
So I'm going to try something new in my house..... I'M BANNING "IN A MINUTE" or "later" or "I'm busy" and I'm going to drop everything at that minute and do what my kids ask of me!!!!!!
Don't get me wrong we do alot of thing together, games, reading, swimming, karate, colouring in, but not everyday, i want to be involved in their lives in a happy positive way EVERY MINUTE i can!
I think I'm finding it even harder that they are at school everyday now, i know that's what is meant to happen, but i don't like it ha ha ha ha , i want them home with me maybe I'm selfish. but at the end of the day there is not much time after school, sport, dinner, home work, bath........ time for bed.
So from now on daddy and i are going to stop what we are doing and play with the kids no matter what!!!! :)
So i want you to listen to yorself next time your child ask's you to do something with them...
AND SAY YES!!!! :) happy playing